You might have heard phrases like:

“Procrastination will cost you.”

“The best time to get started is now!”

“Planning isn’t just about money; it’s about peace of mind.”

“You need to take care of this sooner rather than later.”

You know you should do this, but you keep pushing it off.

You do this because:

• Death is an uncomfortable topic
• Estate planning is a lot of work
• You think it’s too expensive
• You don’t want the family conflict
• You believe that you “have time”

But what if I told you that none of that is true?

While there is some truth to getting this done sooner than later, the reality is this:

Planning your legacy and getting your affairs in order doesn’t have to be expensive, it doesn’t need to be uncomfortable, and you can get it done in a few short weeks.

By getting your affairs in order now, you can embrace the opportunity to:

• Plan with intention
• Communicate openly with your family
• Get your financial and emotional affiars in order

This is not just a task, it’s a profound expression of love and respect.

Unfortunately, most people don’t know this, including many estate planners, who may not fully understand the emotional impact of a well-prepared “love after life” blueprint.

If you never read anything else I write, please take this to heart: 

By preparing thoughtfully, you not only give yourself peace of mind, but you give your family a final gift that relfects the depth of your care and commitment.

I only know this because I’ve been through it myself.

My Entire Viewpoint on Life Changed When My Husband Died

Hi, my name is Kim Harms. I’m the author of 2 award-winning #1 bestselling books on grief and legacy building.

I have spoken to thousands of people around the world on grief after loss along with conflict management between families.

After my husband passed away, I came to a stark realization:

Despite the emotional devastation, what my family needed most was clarity — clarity that only a well-structured plan could provide.

Watching my children and grandchildren struggle with losing their beloved "Pop Pop" opened my eyes to the importance of easing the inevitable transition when it’s my time to go.

Though my husband had been ill for years, none of us were truly ready for the day he left us.

The grief was overwhelming, and my grandchildren bore the weight of it most profoundly.

In that chaos, I made a commitment to my family: I would not let them face such turmoil when it was my turn to depart.

I began by researching how to secure my family’s future. What I discovered was life-changing:

The key to lasting happiness for those we leave behind isn’t found in monetary wealth but in the strength and resilience of our relationships.

The most profound gift we can leave is not material but emotional — a legacy of love, compassion, and connection that endures even after we’re gone.

I also learned that more than half of American families experience conflict after the death of a loved one.

This statistic fueled my determination to prevent conflict and confusion within my own family.

To pave a smoother path for my children, I identified four critical steps that needed to be taken:

✅Organize my affairs
✅Build a meaningful legacy
✅Openly discuss death and grief
✅Attend to my emotional affairs

At first, the weight of these tasks felt overwhelming, but with time, clarity emerged.

As a result of this journey, I wrote my book, Are You Ready? How to Build a Legacy to Die For.

I eventually gathered everything my family would need in one comprehensive legacy binder.

Within that binder, I included legacy and love letters, each a reminder of how deeply they are cherished — letters to be read when I am no longer here to say the words myself.

Today, I am prepared. The weight has been lifted from my shoulders, knowing that when the inevitable happens, my family will have everything they need to honor my wishes and move through their grief with clarity and peace.

Recently, my daughter expressed her gratitude for the work I’ve done to create what I call the Love After Life Blueprint.

She told me she’s comforted that she won’t be burdened with uncertainty when the time comes. Instead, she’ll be able to focus on celebrating the life I lived rather than grappling with decisions amid her sorrow.

Ultimately, the most incredible legacy we can leave is not written in a will or sealed in a vault. It’s written in the hearts of the people we love, the lessons we teach, and the love we pass on.

That love, when carefully nurtured and prepared for and demonstrated by completing a comprehensive legacy binder, can outlast even death.

So, I did what others aren’t willing to do.

While there is some information out there on how to do this, most of it is too general or incomplete.

I personally spent years researching papers, books, podcasts, and videos, only to discover that one critical piece was often missing — a focus on the emotional aspect of legacy building.

That's why I did what others aren’t willing to do…

I spent several months condensing everything I’ve learned about how to make this process as simple and streamlined as possible. Then, I put it into a single “no brainer” connect-the-dots system.

Now, more quickly than ever, anyone can follow the same simple process to ensure the emotional health of their families after they die…

… without going at it alone

… without spending months researching what to do

… without having to figure out what to say to your family

… without the fear of being unprepared after you pass

… without breaking family bonds

… without your family being surprised by grief

… and even if you have no idea where to start.